It is hard to reconcile the fact that it is already time for another election.  Did the last election really end?  Did we ever come together as a country after the 2016 election and move forward together as a nation?  I would posit, No.  

The last 3 years have been ugly.  Now people are starting to put their red and blue jerseys back on (if they ever took them off) for another winner-take-all bloodbath.  The President is cursing on Twitter and casually suggesting the country may be back to our Civil War division.  An impeachment inquiry is gathering steam.  The peoples’ good will is exhausted.  

There are also millions of young people who are growing up watching this public spectacle of politics, and trust me when I say, they don’t pull their punches when asking the tough questions in class.  They want answers and they don’t accept platitudes.  They know the future is theirs and they aren’t about to let us hit the snooze button on their democracy because everyone has resigned themselves to the lazy belief that “the other side is just crazy.”  

So, what?  What now?  Let the Constitution work its magic.  Let the three branches of government pull their weight and wade through the natural tug-of-war that the Founders created to ensure that no one person or branch can become too powerful.  And as we look ahead to the 2020 election, let’s each NOT be dragged into the pedantic mudslinging and pedestrian insults that others find comfortable.  Commit to civil discourse about issues and candidates, about our differences…and commit to asking sincere questions and listening to others.  Oh, and talk to kids.  Not in that “indoctrinate-them-good” way.  Really talk to them.  They’re listening.  

By: Tori N., Youth Advisory Board Member

Civil Discourse. What does that mean? Essentially, civil discourse means to have a debate. But doesn’t having a debate mean having an argument? And of course having an argument means that the parties have to be heated, angry, and foul right? Wrong. Somewhere along the road in history, we as a society decided that debating something meant that we were suppose to give our opinions and defend them until the matter was over. Somewhere along the road, debates stopped being a discussion about both sides of a conflict where one rationally weighs the pros and cons of each side, and instead, turned into an aggressive medium for one’s opinions to be forced onto others.

The Youth Safety and Civility Alliance is striving to teach today’s generations how to participate in civil discourse appropriately. As a student, I can testify that I have sat in many social science classes over the years and have been asked to give my opinion on controversial subjects and sensitive topics. As outgoing and confident as I am, I initially don’t mind chiming into the conversation, until I feel the sour looks fall on me and another student barks at me for holding a different opinion than them. Everyone is so defensive. Everyone needs to have the last word. It’s as if our thoughts are irrelevant if the class isn’t finished having a discussion after we finish our point. Why does my political stance translate into the judge of my character? Why do my peers decide if I’m a good person or not based on an idea that I wanted to share?  Why does society decide if they want to be respectful to someone based on their political or religious beliefs? I am so much more than what you learned about me while listening to my two minute anecdote, stating whether or not I agree with the new policy being implemented or the outcome of the landmark supreme court case in discussion.

I am overjoyed to grow up in a place and time where we can share our ideas, but I am heartbroken to admit that the Freedom of Speech is not free. The first amendment gives you the right to say what you please, but it comes with a cost. It comes with the disapproval and hatred of others. It comes with a permanent reputation. It comes with a tainted aura that you must carry with you from class to class as you smile at your peers in the hallways and they brush past you with a look of disgust. Today’s social climate has decided that the Freedom of Speech is not necessarily free. As a society, we assume that because someone holds one viewpoint, they must also hold all the other ones associated with extremely right-winged or extremely left-winged political agendas. We assume that if someone admits to practicing a certain religion, they fall under all the beliefs of the negative stereotypes we see in the media. It is wrong to judge a person’s character based on an opinion they hold. Our value is discernible through our actions, not our words. It is time for adults to start teaching students that it is perfectly acceptable to believe something different from their best friend, and it is time for children to believe it. It is perfectly acceptable to be different, in fact, we want that! We teach kids to be themselves, we want them to feel confident and self-assured. But, as we get older, it becomes harder and harder to open up and share oneself with the world because we are scared to face the inevitable backlash.

We need to learn how to engage in civil discourse. We need to learn how to have inclusive, mature, and thought-provoking discussions with others-where we share our ideas with the intent to teach and learn, not with the intent to be right or better than others. We have a right to the freedom of speech, so we need to foster a free environment where everyone can feel confident about sharing their ideas without having to suffer for what they said. We need to engage in conversation that is intended to enhance understanding. We need civil discourse.